Sunday, December 19, 2010

Never Enough Time

'Every morning you get up only when your mom screams at top of her voice', 'You join amidst your friends who were laughing after some funny conversation they had ', 'Getting scolding is part of your college life' , 'Always curse yourself and others for doing things in a hurry', 'Had a break up just because you broke the promise you made'. If some of these are part of your life just like mine, you are in a league called The procrastinator.

Research suggest that 95% of the people in the world agree that they procrastinate at some point of time. Just rethink any problem in your life, the fundamental reason may be due to procrastination or It might have happened when someone else would have procrastinated. A very good example would be my favorite scene in the movie "The Curious case of Benjamin Button" where Benjamin Button(Brad Pitt) narrates how Daisy's (Cate Blanchett) dance career ends. At times it makes me wonder whether it is inevitable.

 

My favorite scene in the movie "The Curious case of Benjamin Button"

Many psychologist say that the reason for procrastination is FEAR. I read an interesting article which said that in some or the other way the 3 main reason (though there could be even more)  are 'The fear of failure', 'The fear of unpleasant or painful experiences' and 'The fear of missing out'.

Based on my own experience and observation( which are completely subjective) I have figured out few fundamental reason for procrastination. Interestingly for few reason, I have found a theory backing me.

Childhood effects your Adulthood:

Development psychology is a scientific study which believes that every incident that occurs in a human life right from childhood plays a major role in their entire life san.

PJ-AU882A_LAB_D_20100510200919Most of the parents set the time of their Clock or Wrist watch a little earlier thinking that they and their kids may be on time, if they do things a little early. But they forget that it gets subconsciously registered in their mind and ultimately end up being late. They get completely confused with the actual timing. Interestingly I have found out that their lateness is directly proportional to the time they set in their clock w.r.t the actual time. For example if the house clock is set 5 min early the entire family develops a habit of being late for say 5 -10 min. I guess procrastinator might have developed this habit right from childhood which I believe is one of the major reason.

Tell me who your friends are and I’ll tell who you are:

I call Procrastination a communicable disease that most of us suffer. I believe its communicable based on a theory called the Convergence theory of crowd psychology which says that "The crowd behavior is not a product of the crowd itself, but is carried into the crowd by particular individuals and this amount to a convergence of like- minded individuals". So any one of your friend is a procrastinator, there is a high probability that you and your friends might get influenced by him.

 

Art of blaming:

fingeredit128586803798290081“ And God said, ’Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten from the tree of which I commanded you that you should not eat?’ Then the man said, ’The woman whom You gave to be with me, she gave me of the tree, and I ate.’ And the Lord God said to the woman, ’What is this that you have done?’ The woman said, ’The serpent deceived me, and I ate." Genesis 3:11-13. “

 

Art of blaming is a tool used by every human. Just like in the movie 'The shutter Island' Edward Daniels A.K.A Andrew Laeddis (Leonardo Di Caprio) develops a defensive mechanism to convince himself that he had not murdered his wife, We develop 'Art of blaming ' as a defensive mechanism and never try to figure out the actual reason and solve it. We blame others when we procrastinate and never try to solve it ourselves.

These are few fundamental reason that I believe lead to procrastination. Me on the virtue of overcoming procrastination can definitely not give any suggestion to overcome this. But I hope this post may help you solve the fundamental reasons for procrastination. Like I always believe, life is filled with valuable lesson which should be learnt not read.

1 comment:

S. SAI SMRITHI said...

that was a real good read. may be i should reproduce what you said earlier. a lotta of research work.